It’s been a while since I’ve had some intentional exercise. This past weekend, I decided I was going to get one good work out in. By the time Sunday rolled around, I told myself I didn’t feel like it. I sat there for a minute and considered just putting it off. I didn’t feel like moving at all. Then I remembered who I was— a person who never wants to allow my feelings to get the best of me. Finally, I took out my exercise mat and laid down to do some Pilates. As I laid down on the mat I looked over at the bottom of my bookshelf as I became eye level with an old book from nursing school, a book on ECGs. That’s when the inspiration for a new blog post struck.
This is an image of a normal sinus rhythm; it’s the rhythm of a healthy heart. When your heart is working like it should, you have a steady heartbeat as opposed to an irregular one. A stable heartbeat is predictable. Likewise, we ourselves are more predictable and thus trustworthy when we have a stable heart, a heart that is guided by true love and not counterfeit love. Counterfeit love is emotional; true love is logical and action oriented.
Notice how in the healthy heartbeat there are peaks and valleys; there are low points and high points. Healthy people, too, will experience high points and low points throughout their lives. It’s in how they handle those low points that define their level of stability. When we are feeling low, we have to remember that the pendulum will inevitably swing in the other direction, and we cannot truly appreciate the good without the bad. The most beautiful sunsets need cloudy skies.
Emotions are a beautiful part of the human experience. I’m grateful to be someone with very deeply emotional experiences. I honor them and allow myself to feel them to their full capacity, never pushing them aside nor stifling them, even when they are negative. However, I try my very best not to react to my emotions. If something occurs that hurts or makes me angry, I’m going to process it and pray about it before I even think about taking it to the source. It’s important we process our emotions to some degree before putting ourselves in situations that we know could send us into overdrive. Otherwise, we could end up saying or doing something we regret. Decisions should never be made when we are feeling emotional.
We as humans and especially women must understand the value of being non-reactive, non-emotional. This does not mean we don’t have emotions, but that we are not led by them. Learning to master one’s emotions is one of the most valuable lessons that can be learned in life. When we can have control over our emotions, we, in a big way, have control over our lives.